It is 7:15 am.
The nurse who is doing the ultrasound on my thyroid tells me I will not be able to talk while she performs the procedure.
No problem, I think to myself.
I have not had any coffee yet.
Then she reminds me I will need to remain still.
This presents more of a challenge for me.
As I lie back and stare at the ceiling tiles, I try to find one point to focus on.
Taking a deep breath, I shift my gaze up.
I am only aware of one round spot I have chosen.
Not the darkness in the room, or the clicking sound the machine makes as it takes the images.
I am focused only on one thing.
So before my morning coffee has penetrated the fog that hovers over my thoughts, God whispers into my heart.
It is easier to focus on Me when you are quiet and still.
An interesting concept on any given day, but especially after New Years.
The beginning of the new year is always accompanied by resolutions.
Ones that typically have us moving more.
Oh I know.
I have set goals to exercise and transform my now 50 year old body.
And these resolutions fizzle quickly, like fireworks in the sky.
Just like my focus on Him some days.
Unless I shift my gaze up, quiet myself and focus, my life can quickly become chaotic.
But when I allow Him to set my path, it truly is transforming.
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plan.”
There is nothing wrong with goals of eating healthy and exercising more, but we also need to consider a daily diet of His word and walking with Him in our resolutions for 2020.
And if you miss a day, you can start again.
Even though we are inconsistent, our Heavenly Father remains constant.
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3: 22-23
Friends, as we begin the new year, remember to shift your gaze up, quiet yourself and focus on the One who created you.
You will be transformed.
Christmas is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year.
But truthfully, holidays can be stressful for many families.
The hustle and bustle, the financial strain of buying gifts for everyone, preparing extravagant meals.
And the dreaded question:
Who will we spend time with this holiday?
If you are married, divorced or even dating, you know what it is like to have to split time between households and family members.
It can become a source of conflict and controversy amongst loved ones.
And visits and conversations that are brief leave you with the feeling of wanting more.
It is hard to focus on just one person.
Coming from a large his, mine and ours family, I have seen this scenario play out repeatedly over the years.
I keep my expectations realistic, knowing that I may only get a few precious moments with loved ones.
But moments like these are the greatest gifts.
This past Christmas, I got a beautiful treasure from my niece.
We had breakfast together at our favorite little cafe.
And over coffee and avocado toast, she shared her life and her heart with me.
One of my most cherished moments this Christmas.
These are the treasures that mean the most, being in the presence of loved ones.
Mary understood this well.
When Jesus came to her home, she was not worried about gifts or preparing an extravagant meal.
She simply wanted to focus on one person: Jesus.
Mary wanted to hear Him share His heart.
But this was the source of conflict with her own sister.
“ As they went on their way, they came to a town where a woman named Martha lived. She cared for Jesus in her home.Martha had a sister named Mary. Mary sat at the feet of Jesus and listened to all He said. Martha was working hard getting supper ready. She came to Jesus and said, “Do You see that my sister is not helping me? Tell her to help me.”Jesus said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. Only a few things are important, even just one. Mary has chosen the good thing. It will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10: 38-42
Friends, sometimes we choose busyness over sitting at the feet of the One who gave us the greatest gift we have ever known.
He only asks for us to be present with Him.
Start right now.
Take time to be present with Him today and in the new year.
It is the greatest gift we can offer the One who gave us His all.
Every year, we gather our friends together for birthday cake for Jesus.
It has become one of my favorite traditions.
We started when our kids were pretty small.
Now, some of them are in college.
And they all still gather around as my friend tells the story of the Savior’s birth, using our Nativity set with a plush Joseph, Mary, and the baby Jesus.
Afterwards, we light the candles on the cake and sing Happy Birthday to our Savior.
Mr. Lord (yes, that is his real name) always asks the group this question as he narrates the story.
What did the angel say to the shepherds as they tended to their sheep?
Do not be afraid!
They all shout out the same answer.
For as many times as they have heard this story, they know this answer by heart.
“And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; He is the Messiah, the Lord.” Luke 2: 8-11
The shepherds must have been fearful, having something appear out of nowhere.
Yet the same response appears repeatedly throughout scripture.
Do not be afraid!
I have thought of this phrase so many times this week.
Sometimes things appear out of nowhere.
A new health diagnosis or illness.
The unexpected loss of a loved one.
A financial burden.
The approaching holiday can make us feel anxious or worried.
Especially if we feel like hope is lost.
But Christmas is when hope was born.
It is the reminder to not be afraid, because we are not alone.
“Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call His name Immanuel, which means God is with us.” Matthew 1:23
I don’t know about you, but I need this reminder daily, not just at Christmas.
Friends, whatever we are facing today, God is with us.
Do not be afraid.
I pray our children keep that answer always tucked in their hearts.
I pray that you do as well.
It was a moment.
A moment when I was sure if anyone witnessed what was unfolding, they would have revoked my nomination for the Mother of the Year award.
No nominations here.
Just a mom doing the best she can.
And this was a moment when my frustration and emotions got the better of me.
Start with a teenage boy with an attitude.
Insert “the tone” here.
If you have a teenage son, there is no explanation needed.
Add a runaway dog that you offered to watch for a friend.
Factor in that same son, who did not want to make the trip with you anyway, is now covered in mud.
Stomping back through the woods with “escapee’ back on his leash, my son’s anger could not be contained.
The exchange of words brought me to tears.
As we made our way back to the car, I completely disintegrated.
These were the words I whispered to my red faced son:
“I must be the worst mom in the world for you to think it is ok for you to speak to me in this way.
I thought I had taught you better.”
I am even crying as I am writing this.
It was such an ugly, raw moment.
And a long car ride home.
He reassured me that I was not the worst mom in the world and that he loved me.
He apologized for the attitude and overreacting.
I apologized for getting emotional and yelling.
As soon as we exited the car at home, he put his arms around me and told me he loved me.
Even in my worst moments, that kid loves me.
But I have to admit, in my worst moments, I do not feel loveable.
That is why God’s love is so remarkable to me.
I am the child with the attitude somedays.
I get “the tone” with those around me.
When things do not turn out the way I have pictured in my head, I stomp around in frustration.
And all the while, I wonder if God looks at me, shakes His head and asks the same question.
Didn’t I teach you better, child?
In those moments, I choose to ignore what I have been taught and focus on how I feel.
But despite all of this, the Creator of the Universe loves me.
Friends, God knows us.
He sees our best days and our worst days.
And even on our worst days, He still chose to send His son to die for us.
He reassures us with His word.
“But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” Romans 5: 8
Our Heavenly Father knew long before we breathed our first breath, He would have these moments with us.
Even when we think we are unloveable, God’s love remains unchanging.
His arms are always open, ready to embrace us with His grace.
Even on our worst days.
I could not wait to get home Tuesday night.
For King and Country was playing on CMA Christmas.
This Christian pop duo was performing their rendition of The Little Drummer Boy.
Did you know that the first recorded version of this song was in 1951 and was performed by the Trapp Family Singers?
Yes, the same family that inspired the Sound of Music.
The Little Drummer Boy has been performed by a variety of artists over the years, from Bing Crosby to Johnny Cash, The Brady Bunch to Joan Jett and the Blackhearts, Bob Dylan to Justin Beiber.
But this is my favorite version of the popular Christmas song.
And it is not just because I fangirl over Joel and Luke Smallbone.
The inspiring performance to an audience of believers and non believers alike Tuesday night brought the lyrics to life for me in a new way.
For King and Country was not performing a song.
They were truly offering their gifts to our King.
And they played their best for Him like I have never seen before.
It literally gave me chills and brought me to tears at the same time.
The song that I have heard since childhood stirred inside me and forced me to search my heart in a deeper way.
What do I have that is fit to offer our King?
What could I possibly offer that He would want?
[ What God Wants ] “And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God ask of you? He wants you to fear the Lord your God, to walk in all His ways and love Him. He wants you to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul.” Deuteronomy 10:12 NLV
“And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” Deuteronomy 6:5 NLV
God simply wants us to love Him.
That is a gift each one of us can offer to our King.
Do I really play my best for Him?
What does my best look like to our Creator?
“You’re familiar with the old written law, ‘Love your friend,’ and its unwritten companion, ‘Hate your enemy.’ I’m challenging that. I’m telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that. Matthew 5: 43-47 MSG
Friends, these are questions not just to ask on the day we celebrate our Savior’s birth, but each and every day.
What do we have that is fit to offer our King?
Do we play our best for Him?
Our love for Him and for each other is the present that we can all offer our King.
Let’s offer our best to Him today.
“Whatever work you do, do it with all your heart. Do it for the Lord and not for men.”
Colossians 3: 23 NLV
It was seven pages of a heart conversation.
An expression of love and gratitude written from my mother to hers.
The letter was dated December 31, 1958.
It seemed so fitting to find it on Thanksgiving Eve.
This treasure surfaced last night as I was searching for old pictures.
There is just something about seeing my mother’s handwriting….
Insert ugly crying here.
Before texting and emails, there was the lost art of letter writing.
As I read her words, I could hear her voice narrating the letter aloud as if she were sitting right beside me.
She was in “sentimental mood” as she put it, missing those she could not be with during the holiday season.
I know this ache.
Many of you know it, too.
So she did what I always knew my mother to do: she put her thoughts on paper.
Sometimes her thoughts came in the form of a letter, sometimes a poem.
But they always came from her heart.
Heart conversations to those she loved.
This particular letter had been addressed to my grandmother, Mom’s brother Dick and his wife Jane, and their two children, Dicky and Faye.
She had a word for each of them.
Pride for Dick, for the husband and father he was, with a “wonderful faith in God and mankind.”
Love for his wife, Jane for teaching her about the virtue of patience.
And a heartfelt poem to my grandmother, because “they have not yet thought up words to describe you.”
She was grateful for each one of them in her life and took the time to tell them just that.
Paul wrote letters as well.
He had a word for God’s people and shared his gratitude for their role in sharing the Good News.
“Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God. Whenever I pray, I make my requests for all of you with joy, for you have been my partners in spreading the Good News about Christ from the time you first heard it until now. And I am certain that God, who began a good work within you, will continue His work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. So it is right that I should feel as I do about all of you, for you have a special place in my heart. You share with me the special favor of God, both in my imprisonment and in defending and confirming the truth of the Good News. God knows how much I love you and long for you with the tender compassion of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1: 3 – 8
Friends, words of love and gratitude are timeless.
And on this Thanksgiving Day, know from the bottom of my heart I give thanks to my God for all of you.
Blessings in heaps!
It’s that time of year again.
The clocks are turned back, and instantaneously 5:00 pm feels like 9:00 pm.
There seems to be more darkness than light.
Where did the sun go?
The sun feels further away, even though I know that it is still there.
This powerful force is the earth’s primary source of energy.
It provides warmth to our bodies of water, our land and our atmoshphere.
Absorbing the sun’s rays seems to provide warmth to our souls as well.
But this energy is not only absorbed by the earth, but also can be reflected back into the atmosphere.
This is referred to as the albedo effect.
Albedo lets us know how much of the sun’s energy actually gets here and affects the earth’s temperarture.
A planet or a moon with a low albedo absorbs the radiation that falls on it and does not reflect anything back into the atmosphere.
As a result, it does not shine brightly.
But a planet or moon with a high albedo reflects a lot of light back into the atmosphere.
Some surfaces tend to be a very reflective, such as snow.
It reflects back that energy that falls on it.
I love to see God in the details of our lives.
Somedays, there seems to be more darkness than light.
And on those days, I am tempted to ask “where did the Son go?”
He feels further away, even though I know that He is still there.
Jesus is my primary source of energy, providing warmth to my soul.
And just like having a low albedo, on the days I am self absorbed, I do not shine brightly.
I do not reflect His light or love back into the world.
But if we allow Him to, He will make us like snow.
“Take away my sin, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Make me hear joy and happiness. Let the bones that You have broken be full of joy. Hide Your face from my sins. And take away all my wrong-doing.
Make a clean heart in me, O God. Give me a new spirit that will not be moved.
Psalm 51: 7 -11 (NLV)
Just like the snow, I can then reflect back His love and light into a world that needs His energy.
Friends, we all experience dark days when the Son feels far away.
But He is always there.
Absorb His light today and remember to reflect His love back into the atmosphere.
Thanksgiving is almost upon us.
And while many of us are planning out our meals or our travel plans, we often miss the essence of the holiday.
Thank you : two simple words, sometimes said casually in passing or quickly in a text to a friend.
But how often do we consider the things that someone has done for us; pause and really thank them for what they’ve done?
My friend, Dawn, is someone who takes the time to pause, ponder and pray.
She never misses an opportunity to stop, reflect and write a note of gratitude to those around her.
This is one of the things I cherish about her.
Each week as I write, she takes time out of her schedule to proofread and offer me feedback.
I cannot tell you how much her support and time have meant to me over the past year.
Every time I think of her, I give my God thanks.
Jesus had a busy schedule, but He always made time to pause, ponder and pray.
“But the news about Him was spreading farther, and large crowds kept gathering to hear Him and to be healed of their illnesses. But Jesus Himself would often slip away to the wilderness and pray (in seclusion). “ Luke 5 15-16 AMP
Jesus was deliberate.
He made it a priority to pause.
As the busyness of the holiday season is quickly approaching, my challenge to you is this:
- Pause . Take a breath and be still.
- Ponder. Consider those around you and how important they are in your life.
- Pray. Thank God for this person and pray for them.
As I pause today, I ponder who may be reading this blog.
Know that I am thankful for you, and pray that God’s love and peace overflow in your life.
Take the time today to pause, ponder and pray using this free download from God2Share.
Today is the day.
She will have the test.
I cannot be with her, this beautiful woman forever connected to my soul.
I wish I could sit by her side.
Gently hold her hand.
Offer her some kind of peace as she walks through this storm.
There is a helpless feeling that goes along with watching someone we love so dearly go through something so painful.
Maybe you know that feeling.
Maybe the person you love isn’t facing a health crisis.
Maybe they are going through a divorce, the loss of a loved one, financial problems or addiction.
The pain we face takes many different forms.
We want to be with those who are connected to our souls.
Sit by their sides.
Gently hold their hands.
Offer them some kind of peace as they walk through the storm.
But even when we cannot sit with those we love, we can lift them up to the One who never leaves their side.
“The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4 : 5 -7
I am grateful that when I cannot be there, I know that He always will be.
My feelings of helplessness turn to hope.
Father, I know today you are with her.
You are connected to her soul.
May she feel You sitting by her side,
Gently holding her hand.
I pray she feels the peace You offer as she walks through this storm.
May the love and prayers we offer to those we love and hold so dearly carry them through the storms of life.
Pray to the One who never leaves their side or ours.
It is a rainy October morning
There is a chill in the air.
I pull out the afghan my grandmother made me and curl up on the couch with my coffee.
This treasure is over 30 years old.
When Tootie was still alive, she crocheted afghans for everyone.
Children, grandchildren, great grandchildren.
She made afghans for my friends, and even made matching ones for me and my roommate when I went to college.
When she had enough money, we would go to Newberry’s so she could buy more Wintuk yarn to make more afghans.
She did not have much, but she offered whatever she had.
Her afghans and prayers.
And she offered both until her last breath.
This was her way of showing love.
We do not always recognize the ways others show love.
To some, this covering is just simply a blanket.
But for me, to know what went into making this love offering makes this afghan a timeless treasure.
Jesus recognized how others showed their love for Him.
“Now when Jesus was [back] in Bethany, at the home of Simon the leper, a woman came to Him with an alabaster vial of very expensive perfume and she poured it on Jesus’ head as He reclined at the table. But when the disciples saw it, they were indignant and angry, saying, “Why all this waste [of money]? For this perfume might have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor.” But Jesus, aware [of the malice] of this [remark], said to them, “Why are you bothering the woman? She has done a good thing to Me. You always have the poor with you; but you will not always have Me. When she poured this perfume on My body, she did it to prepare Me for burial. I assure you and most solemnly say to you, wherever this gospel [of salvation] is preached in the whole world, what this woman has done will also be told in memory of her [for her act of love and devotion].” Matthew 26: 1-13 AMP
To some, pouring this expensive perfume from the alabaster vial onto the head of Jesus was seen as wasteful.
But for Jesus, He knew what went into bringing this offering.
This was her way of showing love to Him.
An act of love and devotion.
One that would be told about for many years to come.
As I look down at this worn afghan, it reminds me that love is shown in different ways.
May God give us the eyes to see the many ways love is offered to us.
May He also help us to find the ways we can offer our love to a broken world.
Even if it is through afghans and prayers.